Middlespace

For many people, there is a gap between what they say that they are going to do and what they actually do.  This can either be in the timeliness of the action or the action itself.  As an example, "I will meet you at the park at 5pm.": they are either there at 5pm, they arrive at another time or they don't show at all.  Additionally, they can either be conscious of this gap or unconscious: they are aware that they were late or missed the engagement, or it 'totally slipped their mind'.  This gap is what I refer to as 'middlespace' and when we are conscious of it in ourselves, we are provided with a great opportunity to increase our energetic reserves and personal power.

You can see the energy drain in those who live in the world of middlespace - they are consistently late or missing appointments, prone to over-promising & under-delivering to those around them and often not aware of the impact of this on others.  They are usually stressed, overwhelmed and harried - comments like "I can never get caught up" or "I'm maxxed" are frequently expressed.  They also tend to perceive the energy drainers in their life as external, as opposed to looking inward at themselves.

Seeing this in ourselves is usually more challenging but the benefits of stopping the energy draining effects of middlespace are there nonetheless. My exercise for this is simple and one that suggest practicing for a few minutes each day.  Find a place where there are two chairs or seats and make yourself comfortable in one of them.  Imagine yourself in the other chair and then ask yourself if there are any gaps between your communication and actions.  Note what comes to mind and record this for review later (either by writing or recording or both).

For each middlespace gap that you discover create an intention to close the gap, reminding yourself to be patient and compassionate with yourself along the way.  This is not about judgment - this is simply about noticing 'What is' and creating an intention to bridge the gap.  I often do this in my car on my commute home from work, dialoguing with myself in the passenger seat - I then leave myself a voice message at work that is there for me when I arrive the next morning.  This can be a bit confronting at first but the energy gain if usually quite dramatic so well worth the effort.  I encourage you to go easy on yourself, take it one day at a time and notice what transpires for you.   The power of middlespace is there for you to utilize - you just need to claim it for your own.

All the Best,
Whitney
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